Bask in the Glory of Other’s Insecurities

Being “different” comes with its own set of problems.

For the past two years, I have been on a journey towards self-growth and evolution.

While most people I came across were supportive of the journey, I could clearly find people who had significant problems with my new living style.

I could feel their faces scrunch when they heard me talking about reducing the consumption of resources, sustainability, my commitment to reduce plastic consumption, wearing my friend’s old clothes, or completely changing my diet to better my own health and of the world.

Earlier in the process of growth, I took those negative emotions way too personally. I didn’t realize that not everyone grew at the same pace and that it was challenging for people to look outside their comfort zone.

I also realized that lot of the reactions I was getting, had to do with how I shared my messages.

Was I disrespectful? Was I almost narcissistic? At times, yes.

I didn’t know how to handle all this new information. It was as if a kid was given a superpower, and she had no idea how to control it (Yes. I am a superhero movie buff). She was blasting beams everywhere!

But, there were also times when it had absolutely nothing to do with me. It had to do with how people perceived the information based on their past and their subconscious beliefs. It had to do with their insecurities.

No matter how graciously I shared my life (Note: I didn’t try to teach, I only shared what I was doing with my life), I could feel the resistance. After a point, I was tired of convincing people that it wasn’t personal. The process of convincing others was taking away way too much of my time.

I also noticed that I was shrinking myself. I was trying to make myself smaller so that people accepted and approved of me. That meant staying “in the lane” and continuing to lead a life based on other’s convenience.

Nope. I had done that enough in my life. For many years, I was shy to take up space. To rightly shout to the world and say, “Hey! This is what I am, and this is what I love”.

Not anymore.

So I continued in my path, even if it meant people were laughing behind my back, not just at the new things I was discovering but also at my mistakes.

I either came off as an arrogant, self-obsessed individual or a beacon of light.

It didn’t matter what people thought of me. None of it mattered.

What mattered was how we were growing as a collective and how we were creating small, significant positive changes.
That’s all that mattered.

Life is complex, and no human being is ever morally and ethically perfect. I mean, NO ONE. But we should still strive to be a little better than we were yesterday, shouldn’t we?

So, if you are stuck in a place today where people are judging you for “changing the old ways,” introspect, take time to recognize that your actions are positive, and keep moving forward.

Your acting small does no good to the world. So, please keep expanding and bask in the glory of other’s insecurities till you may not need to anymore.

Check out my YouTube channel for inspiring videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBfUxVSxC0koxGSkwzVRYzQ

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Seethal Jayasankar

Seethal Jayasankar

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I quit my 4-year Oil & Gas related job to Volunteer in gardens & work in the field of Sustainability.